Proud parents

This is a compelling and poignant collection of stories of lesbians and gay men who have adopted or fostered children. Single and in partnerships, they share their experiences on a number of issues. What motivated them to adopt or foster? How did they respond to the assessment process? What was it like when the child first moved in? And what is life like now, together as a family?

A major focus of this collection is on building a family together, enjoying new activities and helping children to come to terms with their early life experiences. Contributors also talk honestly about the impact of adoption or fostering on their own lives, relationships, finances and work.

This is a moving and powerful tribute to how love can change lives for the better.

Who is this book for?

Anyone who is interested in the experiences of lesbian and gay adopters and foster carers, including those considering adoption or fostering, currently going through the process, new adoptive and foster families, and social work practitioners who work in this field.

What you will find in this book

‘I think adoption has been the making of me. I used to be much more self-centred before I had children. Now you have to put them first, but it’s worth it for the joy they give you. It’s hard work but very satisfying and gratifying. Both the kids are very loving and giving.'

‘I think preparation is the key to everything. As two men, we hadn’t had much hands-on experience so we worked in a nursery once a week as part of our preparation. We also did a positive parenting course, some training and a residential course. That really worked well for us. I’ve also read loads on attachment disorder.'

‘When each child moved in, we tried to keep the same routines as the foster homes for the first few months. The change is so massive for them. As neither of ours could speak when they were placed, we had to guess quite a lot. I would say find out as much as you can from those who have cared for them beforehand.’

Editor

Nicola Hill is a writer, specialising in LGBT issues. She also offers training and gives presentations about recruiting adopters and foster carers from the LGBT community. Nicola and her partner, Laura, foster two children on a long-term basis.

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